Into my arms... #70

[june72]

I thought that most marriage recovery books state that affair must be discussed for healing to occur.

I love Dr. Phil's advice on recovery and Allen in infidelity is really posting some amazing excepts from recovery books. Really good stuff.

So you tell him you are hurt and want to heal by discussing things (seems healthy to me) and he wants to pretend this never happened? Not healthy on his end.

Can you communicate by letters or emails? Rather then a conversation? That has always worked better for my hubby. He gets so anxious and upset that he wants to leave the room. Perhaps your husband is the same way?

Maybe just casually one question. In an email with lots of other topics, you could slip it in- Husband, I am curious, how did things end between the two of you? Just that and let it hang in the air for a few days. Maybe in a few days ask if he got your email. Maybe this is cr@ppy advice, IDK.

The red flag bothering me is no sex, Not sure how you are thinking about it.