Thanks FM for saying that! H has been gone for not quite 3 mos. We are still married and yes, maybe instead of eeewww, I should say that I am feeling uncomfortable! In fact, as I sit here on the computer, I am feeling like I need to get curtains or shades or something on the window...never gave that a thought before...not too worried really about him (he's friends with neighbors) but....
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CV, I can relate, in some ways it could be flattering and "ego boosting" to have someone interested in you and on the other hand I'm just not interested in ANY guy right now (even if he was "hot" and filthy rich). I don't know, even in the situation I'm with my WH, I just can't think of anybody else but him in "that way". I was even wondering that If he is gone forever, will I ever be able to love someone else. Hard to imagine at this point...
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ew - I agree pushy and I would be blunt. I'd say you and H are working things out and you're not interested but thanks anyhow. OTherwise, doesn't sound like he's going to give up.
Just got home from grandson's bday party. H was a no show. He sneaked a card and gift in the SS & DIL's door and early this morning. Didn't knock or anything. The kids and I had a nice time. H's exW was there with her BF. Talked with her quite a bit. Luckily, she didn't ask where H was and when DIL read the card from us (grandma, uncle and aunt, no mention of grandpa)out loud, I held my breath waiting for questions but there weren't any!!! Phew! H's ex noticed my weight loss and complimented me! My DIL has and uncle who divorced a couple of years ago and he and his ex are slowly working on getting back together! They were there...was nice to see that. She had still been invited to their family functions and she usually did come. They have 3 kids together.
Ran to the home improvement store to get paint and went ahead and got a new area rug while I was there! Can't wait to paint so I can put new bedding on and rug down! It is going to be so cozy!!!
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Well, regarding that divorced man; you are on the right track..you are STILL married, and he needs to back right off.
Looks like you're on the right track, CW. Just stay detached and keep your emotional distance going...all you have is time at this point.
Looks like you're using that wisely.
Have fun painting.
I got you in my prayers.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
