I use to say things like that, too. Perhaps I was a bit pious.
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A mature person, if unhappy, works on the marriage and tries to fix it first.
Maturity (or lack of it) doesn't have that much to do having an affair. True, immaturity certainly doesn't help in M problems......but having a lot of maturity does not protect or necessarily prevent a person from getting into a situation that is very wrong. Mature people commit sin every day of their life.
I was a mature woman and was what most people would consider very grounded.....solid.....Church going....person. Never, ever, in a million & one years would I have ever believed I would get emotionally involved with a man who was not my H. I would have been furious if anyone had suggested that I might ever be so "human" to do that.
But things can happen to a person. A lot of things can happen that effects one's mental & emotional state until it can surprise even themselves. One day you look in the mirror and wonder who that is and what happened to who you use to be.
No longer do I say that I would never be guilty of doing this or that b/c I have learned that I am ever so mortal with many faults and failures in my life. Yes, I am mature but I am still learning.....and hopefully growing into until the day I die.
My words here are not meant to sound harsh in any way to any person. My heart breaks as I remember when I could once say the words, "I would never have an affair".
Protect yourself and don't ever let your guard down and think you are not vernable. Take care.....always.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
