Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Allen-

My H is definately displaying most of those addiction symptoms. Your description about my fear of losing him is right. I guess I should not feel that way since he is already gone.
I did answer his text and here is what I wrote;

I understand that the way we were interacting with each other in our marriage was the problem but that reason or any other is no excuse and does not justify stepping out on your marriage by way of infidelity. You had an obligation to us to explore all options before abandoning your family. You are going to find fault with everything that I say because you are cheating with another woman and I want to save our marriage. You are trying to force us to accept your choice of damaging our family without an honest effort to work things out.

I guess this was too abrasive to him and maybe I did word things wrong because WH got defensive(addiction symptom #7) and responded with;

Well, I see you want to see it your way so thats the way we will look at it then. I'm the bad person and I am the one now who made the mistake and have 2 live with it......its all my fault.

I am not trying to put the blame on him for everything. We were both at fault for the fall of our marriage but he choose the wrong way by way of another woman to exit our marriage. If my text was wrong to send, let me know. Should I reply to him?