mindfull, I'm excited that you have a plan of attack .
The snarkiness is a tough one. I managed to cut back on that in the last couple of years, but I'm not proud that I've done that a lot . For me it was a passive-agressive way to express my distress that my needs weren't being met. Anyway, it was a habit. So calling your H on it every time is a good call. Also, getting the feedback in a gentle way would have helped me...getting snarked back never gave me a reason to stop (I cut back because I made the choice to change my behaviours). It would have also helped me to get some affection or softness after the feedback about my snarking, so that I didn't feel that horrible "being in the doghouse" feeling. Anyway, I don't know if any of that applies to your sitch, but I just thought I'd share that.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
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. For me it was a passive-agressive way to express my distress that my needs weren't being met. Anyway, it was a 
