Eric, If you leave your home, she can trump up charges that you have abandoned the home and her. I would say move out of the bedroom or she would have to do so. I know it's very difficult to live in a home where one spouse is so totally out to lunch, but it's time to think about what is best for you in other ways. I'm sorry she's pulled the rabbit out of the hat, but it does sound like she's still got a trick or two up her sleeve and alimony may be the trick she's going to be pulling.
I strongly urge you to protect yourself, listen to your lawyer and definitely get something in place, whereby you are no longer responsible for any of her debt.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
