[quote=Dudess]The only reason I suggested maybe not to send everything you know immediately was your uncertainty if this was really OM W, and/or the possibility that he might have access to her account and get it first. Now, if you are sure that the sister IS the sister, that gets around that problem.
I'm not 100% sure yet but I'm willing to take my chances. If she isn't then, she'll just reply. Wrong girl. No harm.
Well, unless she tips off OM before his W can get your info. That was my concern.
It was only relevant if the OM W is the LAST one I expose to.
IMO, OM W is the FIRST one to tell. Ideal scenario as I see it is:
1. OM W learns of the affair & kicks his butt to the curb.
2. OM doesn't want to lose his wife so cuts contact with your wife.
3. Your W realizes she's been duped and wants you back.
What I could do is send ONE picture of them together. She'll want to find more and sen't me an email.
The pictures you have could be totally innocent. Send all you can and offer to send more via regular email
What I'm not too sure to do is sending EVERYTHING through facebook in the FIRST contact.
If I give her all of the evidence she'll confront OM right away and he'll tip off my W. I lost the surprise factor.
Nothing wrong with your W finding out through OM. Better really I think.
OM: "Sorry dear but my wife knows"
Your W: "but I thought you said you were leaving her?"
OM: "I can't do that to my kid, blah, blah, blah"
She will be surprised, not matter how she finds out.
This is why the biggest doubt in my head right now, is if exposing to my W comes later or first. Lots of mixed opinions on this matter all over the board.
Maybe some convos in the alt? I haven't seen anyone on DB saying anything but get to OM W first.
