Hi di- I think it is a fine line to walk to be detached without coming off as cold and uncommunicative. The real issue is that you have to do what is best for YOU and without a doubt, detaching is the best thing for you. As hard as it may be, for the time being you have to stop being concerned about what your H thinks of you. If he ever figures himself out, there is a good likelihood that he will also realize that you had to do whatever you could to survive. So, do what you need to do to work through the anger and then when you are in a less vunerable place, maybe you can be friendlier.
