The only reason I suggested maybe not to send everything you know immediately was your uncertainty if this was really OM W, and/or the possibility that he might have access to her account and get it first. Now, if you are sure that the sister IS the sister, that gets around that problem.
I'm not 100% sure yet but I'm willing to take my chances. If she isn't then, she'll just reply. Wrong girl. No harm. It was only relevant if the OM W is the LAST one I expose to.
I do agree that I need to see if she wants to play ball first. That's why I thought of the 24 hrs period but I see your point, it looks as if I didn't have anything and was buying time to find something.
What I could do is send ONE picture of them together. She'll want to find more and sen't me an email.
What I'm not too sure to do is sending EVERYTHING through facebook in the FIRST contact.
If I give her all of the evidence she'll confront OM right away and he'll tip off my W. I lost the surprise factor. Remember she's thinking she's dumping me next Saturday? I think it's important she still believes this when we meet. Thursday or Friday. It'll be a bigger shock. Plus no phone to call OM. And work next day.
This is why the biggest doubt in my head right now, is if exposing to my W comes later or first. Lots of mixed opinions on this matter all over the board.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
