My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[FormelyknownasF]

I am in the same journey. Right now preparing to expose.

I have to say sandi. Your situation is very similar to mine.

My wife told me she wanted to feel taken care of and protected. We were both unemployed. I busted my a** to find a job and worked my ass of 60 hrs a week to give her that. Did she appreciate it? NOPE. Was it what she really wanted for real ? NOPE. She needed other things I wasn't giving to her.

She always said she understood I had to work long hours but instead she found herself an old teacher from her High School on FB and spent hours complaining about how I neglected she felt. The guy, a 50 yo married man played it flawlessly and once he knew what she was lacking of he told her EXACTLY WHAT SHE WANTED TO HEAR.

I tried to be kind, loving, thoughtful, give her space, respect her privacy, etc
I worked on my marriage the best way I could. Did she appreciate it? NOPE.

You need to let go if you're really serious. You can't rewrite this script, the movie is over. The film was burnt, ok? At least that's how I see it in my marriage.

You need to write a WHOLE different movie. Even if it's about you and your wife again but it needs to be a WHOLE different one.

And you won't get there until you start respecting yourself because respect and not purely love is the basis of a healthy loving relationship.

I wish your strength. Show her the man (as one wise friend told me). Show the man to yourself. Lose the boy. Try and use every minute of this to discover the real you, he's been hiding behind a shy boy. GET HIM OUT OF THERE.


Pls feel free to read my thread. I'm going through the same thing as you are.