H and I texted yesterday and today, all of them cordial and with appropriate levels of concern and interest on both sides.
In an effort to further my 180 plans, I did something radical that I've done only once since the separation.
I asked H if he would like to have dinner.
The last time we had dinner together was in January. It was, in my opinion at the time, a pleasant evening. This was one of the interactions I later learned H felt was "more of the same." My positive, upbeat attitude put him off because he didn't understand why I wouldn't be sad and upset about our separation. His pain was great, and I seemed like I was not bothered at all.
I've learned from this mistake!
After I sent the text request, he responded with, "Dunno are u gonna be normal and not stepford wifey?" That made me laugh out loud! It's a glimpse of his old sense of humor, and I liked that he was teasing me (both things haven't happened in a while, and it brought back some familiar, happier times).
We tentatively have plans for dinner on Tuesday night. I don't think he or I have any work commitments that would interfere, so tomorrow night may be our best night this week. I'm looking forward to a chance to see him and to have another opportunity to interact. I'm smarter and better armed this time!
