Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

I have been mostly laying low and reading everyone elses sitch. Allen, I want to thank you again for your instruction on how to deal with a WH in an affair. I can't forget about the words of encouragement from everyone else also. I have not had the guts to go NC just yet. I guess fear is the deciding factor in that. Lately, I have been feeling feeings of hatred for my H and I really want to give him a piece of my mind.

I slipped up today and sent WH a text questioning why he decided to sacrifice his family for OW. Of course he sent me the standard reply about how his mind has been gone from the marriage for years and he tried to stay and make it work for the kids(lie). Also, he felt that it wasn't right to keep lying to me and himself anymore and that we brought the problems up in our relationship and would always avoid fixing them and then they would lead to bigger problems.

From what I have learned here, there is no reasoning with a person in an affair because it is a type of a addiction. Whatever you tell them, they will find a excuse for their behavior. My question is can I let my WH know that, whether he thinks so or not, he is in an addictive relationship with this OW and just like an addict, he will find fault in everything I say because I want to save my marriage and he does not.

I just didn't know if it was a good idea to call him an addict or not.