Exactly! It's too bad she did not pull her head out of her a$$.
How is this all your fault?
What the hell is wrong with these WAWs? Seriously?
Been lurking in your thread for a while but I have to say that divorce would be the best thing for you.
I hated my divorce and think I could have fixed things but I am reminded once again by both our situations that if the other party is completely loony-tunes that logic, love and hard work will simply not work.
So here we are. I feel for you AFWAW. Like it isn't stressfull enough just being in the military. You have to deal with this BS and raise your D by yourself.
You are a great man and someday a woman will come along that will appreciate that. Trust me on this. It's just a matter of time and time is on OUR side.
FWIW I also was the nice guy that helped my wife move out. Well in retrospect I should have told her to get her facebook boyfriends to help her move her $hit for her.
Sorry for the raw emotions. Sometimes it just comes out. Im not really a bitter and angry person. I am really caring and loving. And right now my love goes to somebody more deserving. That is my XW's loss and all her doing. I had nothing to do with it.
Take care AFWAW. Oh and you will love Germany. Grew up there in the 60s and 70s. May be a bit different now though.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
I'm really sorry, John -- you were FAR more patient than most. You, sir, can hold your head up HIGH.
One last piece of advice from ol' opinionated Puppy: you may want to just let your atty's handle exchanges like that one. If it's about who-gets-what, and what her responsibilities are, you don't have to be the one to communicate that. It's not your job to teach her anymore, and it'll be far better for your own emotional health to not have to get dragged thru the sighs and the drama every time.
Thank you -- again -- for your service. I know I gave you a TON o' crap, but you're a great man, and a very good catch for some lucky woman down the road, AFW.
Puppy, Thanks very much for your kind words. You've given me a lot of your time and advice and for that I am grateful. I will let my lawyer handle the who gets what for now and with any luck this will be over soon. Take care.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
If it makes you feel any better at all, what you've gone through is a warning to me, and I appreciate it. Our situations are vaguely similar, and there is a definite possibility that my W will come begging if her life situation degrades much more. I am now finally in a place where I won't be swayed by her obvious manipulations. If I were to let her come back, I am 90% sure it would go something like what happened with you, and I would end up right back where I am, after another dose of emotional turmoil of course.
Thanks for letting us benefit from your experience.
