Gatsby, good on you for holding off. Well-meaning friends will advocate separation and divorce - they want to see an end to your pain and uncertainty. But it's YOU who has to live the rest of your life without your husband, and your child without their father. Not them.
Okay, first things first, you need to get a copy of Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner Davis? Do you have it?
Also you need to meet with someone who can give you proper advice to do with the non-divorce option. You're right to want to protect your financial security, for you and the baby, but take your time, do the research.
Your husband wanting to be away from you right now is NORMAL. That doesn't mean it will stay that way!
Three weeks is a great NC effort..you're lucky to have him doubting (mine is not doubting at all, as far as I can tell from 3 weeks NC).
You've left the ball in his court... Are you used to deciding alone, or the one making all the decisions? How did that normally work in your M?


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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