I agree with Dudess but I'll add another point, if you're contacting your wife's parents to get them to side with you on this, don't bother, it never works out that way, they will always side with her before they side with you. That's their kid and you're just the son-in-law, you will usually always lose in that situation.
Contact the OM's wife and her sister first and leave it at that and wait for the reply back. Even if the OM's wife is planning to leave him, this will still add ammunition to whatever plan she has in store for him.
Go for it.
Don't want them to side with me but at least be neutral. Again, this is like being with a drug addict, she's addicted. I was hoping that her father at least would understand as he was cheated on by my W's mother. Also thought, even if they love her, nobody could ever agree that being involved with a 50 yo man with kids and a wife is the best thing for their kid. But I do respect your advice and I hear you. Should I then, not expose to family then? That'll give her a chance to tell the story as she pleases. Any other opinions?
About contacting the OM W and sister. So should the sister know about the affair at the same time as the OM W? At the same level of detail? Should I do that ASAP ? Or wait until later in the week?
If OM W spills the beans before time, she'll confront OM and might tip off W that I know already.
The wheels are in motion, anyway. Phone service will stop on Friday unless I cancel that.
Last edited by Fracesc; 03/22/1006:58 PM.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
