Originally Posted By: FLTC

I bought and read every book I could on reconcilliation, and even highlighted some of the stuff, just to lend credence to "this WILL work out". The real issue was, however, I was trying to "push water uphill",

....and that is why I have always urged people here to read Dr. Grey's book. He clearly explains how and why 'hoping for reconciliation' is a true form of denial in every sense. He goes on to describe what REALLY has to occur for a marriage to reconcile (and I can tell you it has NOTHING to do with DB'ing).
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;