Need a Plan for My Marriage

[LSG]

Luvless,

It is difficult isn't it. I know when she is so moody, I just don't want to be around her. I just am tired of the crappy attitude. It was worse this weekend since I cut off the text messaging on private cells. I notice less trips to the bathroom. At least I know they will not be able to communicate as much. I did this for me as much as trying to make their life as difficult as possible.

I truly feel the same way you do.

Thanks for the post.

[LSG]

robx,

I know you are right, but this situation is anything but normal. I just do not enjoy the weekends with someone that is so miserable all the time. I was much happier before the affair, and I am still happy. I hate being around somebody so rude and negative like my W has become. I just ignore it the best I can.

I look forward to the day when I will enjoy the weekends again. I am doing everything possible to make that happen soon.

[luvless]

sorry LSG - I definately know those bathroom trips - ugh

hang in there and be strong..

Luv

[LSG]

Hi robx,

I am getting there, but I want to take care of a few of the situations that are impacting me and my sense of enjoying life again. I have been doing good taking care of myself and following through with actions as opposed to just words. I look forward to everyday with hope and optimism more and more.

[LSG]

luvless,

It is nice to have someone talk to me that can relate. I am having such a hard time with this. I know I may not be manly enough by showing my feelings, but I do have them. I can't hide from them. I need to confront them to learn how to better deal with them.

I know I am not going about my situation the right way. I wish I knew the right way to go about it. I guess I am trying to do what people recommend, and from what I read too. I also have gut instincts that I follow sometimes, but less than I use to. I am glad for that. I keep quiet about things more.

It just sucks so bad this situation for anyone to go through.

[LSG]

Hi Steve,

I am so glad you have it all together and are a happy person. That is great that you are able to do that.

Tell me what the right way is please. I would like to know since you seem to know what the right way is so easily.

You say your relationship with your wife has evolved into something worthwhile, but she still has some issues. What are they? Do you have any issues?

[Steve McQueen]

yeah. tomorrow. enroll your kids in daycare; make your wife pay for it. wtf! she's spending money on another man that should be for your kids. then right after you drop them kids off go to the nearest landscape company and ask if they need any help. you can start tomorrow. there. 2 problems solved. you can look for a job in your field at night when your not sore or sunburnt or playing with your kids.

on your way home. stop at u-haul or the po or lowes and get a stack of cardboxes. pack up all your wifes stuff and move her to the basement so she can sleep on the old couch. there. reclaimed your bedroom and got rid of a depressing tought for 8 hours.

buy a really nice bicycle, or a motorcycle, if youre not chicken like me, for getting back and forth to work and out of the house for the weekend. then go read WAW and the law of attraction by Fracesc. he is getting great advice and comments on exposing his wife's affair. it sounds like you are next.

does the above make sense?

and stop being a love sick guy. it just does'nt sound right.

[LSG]

Hey Steve,

I am so glad you have all this great advice and all the answers. It may be easy for you and that is great! I am glad you can do it. Not everyone is the same, and I am understanding of that. Are you?

Now what about the questions I asked about you and your wife.

[CityGirl]

You are correct that not everybody is the same. That is a given. However EVERY SINGLE PERSON on this site must have the same goal and mindset. What is that? Doing things for you, that make you feel good, that help remove the misery and pain from your life and create the best present and future possible for YOU.

Whatever is going on between SteveMcQueen and his wife really doesn't matter as the point he is trying to make is it must be about you if (and that is a big fat if) anything will change.

If you are miserable on the weekends only you can change that. Only you can change your life and right now your WAW should not be part of the equation.

Is it easy? Of course not. It's necessary though.

[Steve McQueen]

my wife used to sit up all night and chant witchcraft, or go hang out with her lesbian man-hating friends, come home and throw a knive at me, or lets see used my head as a soccer ball while I was sleeping on the floor. oh, and the arguments. I havent met a single other person in my life that argues just to argue. she should be a lawyer. if she was wrong she would flip sides and argue the opposite just to be right. made no sense to me. what else slept on a mat with a picture of the dalia lama. taught she was guided through this lifetime by a ghost monk. "that went with her." oh and there is more. worse.... years and years of bizzaro freako woman. but its in the past. (we have 2 kids together.

me? sounds like you have an issue with me.
me? i just want to see you get out of this depression and try to savage your marriage if its possible. I would like you to be happy about yourself. Your writings do not sound happy.