Stay low, respect what your H is telling you. He wants out, fine. Do what a separated/divorced to be, woman would do. Just be polite and NOT eager to "finish up business". But do respect his feelings. Let's see how serious he is about it.
That sounds like the right course.
But you're back in the "shattering" stage of dealing with abandonment. The book recommends Staying in the Moment as a way to cope with shattering.
1. stop what you are doing 2. start listening to all the background noises 3. start to notice your sense of touch and how things feel physically 4. focus on taste/smell 5. focus on the breath
Even if you can only be in the moment for brief periods, it will help to ground you. Also, seek comfort in beautiful sights and music.
more hugs
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
