what is wrong with being busy with aspects of YOUR life or the life you would like to re-define for YOURSELF, so that you cannot make time for her every whim and demand?
its not being rude it is being busy.
I used this analogy the other day, and I think it is valuable. watch a show or a video about Coral Reefs. Take notice how much life there is. Its not necessarily the "other fish in the sea" cliche. But rather, life is diverse and exciting and if you miserate and depress yourself over an aspect such as a job or a marriage you are really missing out on alot of adventure that may define who you havent realize you are yet.
dont spend time thinking or worrying if i am unavailable and adventurous she may take notice and come back. it doesnt matter. it is not for her it is for you. if she does come back she will not be able to fill every aspect of your life. you will need to keep growing mentally, physically, emotionally yourself. that is life.
