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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love? ddstartingover #1964367 03/22/10 05:37 PM
Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,053 D ddstartingover OP Member
OP ddstartingover Member D Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,053	I am still looking for answers. I am still looking for help with how NOT to appear uncommunicative and cold as I continue to detach. Yes, detachment is for me, and I feel like I am getting some help from this----I have been successful in realizing the importance of detachment, but I do feel that I most likley appear to be uncommunicative and cold. I only answer texts/e-mails that have a direct question (with the exception of the L e-mail), I do my best to be NC. By definition this seems uncommunicative to me. When I see him in person, I do my best not to be cold----but I have no idea what his sense of reality is. I don't spend A LOT of time worrying about what he is or isn't thinking of me----these are just things that are on my mind as I move forward. I know that I must go through the anger stage. I know that is part of this process, but I hate it. Are there any tips on how to get through the anger stage? Any ideas on how to make this easier? This is not who I want to be. I do not want it to take over how I feel about my H, and I feel that happening at times. I do feel compassion for him. I do know that THIS is so not WHO he is, and in order for him to think that all of this makes sense, what he is going through must be extremely painful. Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12

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How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/05/10 04:51 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/05/10 06:28 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TomLost Love	03/05/10 06:48 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/05/10 07:20 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	HeartsBlessing	03/05/10 07:21 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TomLost Love	03/05/10 07:45 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/05/10 08:09 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	courageous wife	03/05/10 08:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Golfgirl1	03/05/10 08:28 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/08/10 05:42 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:08 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	03/08/10 09:15 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	iluvme55	03/08/10 09:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	03/08/10 09:24 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:49 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/08/10 09:50 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/08/10 10:46 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 01:49 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/10/10 01:38 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 03:26 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	brandnewday	03/10/10 03:32 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 04:43 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	SoCo	03/10/10 05:13 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 05:22 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 05:25 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/10/10 05:38 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 06:07 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 07:40 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 08:48 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 08:53 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 09:01 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 09:08 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 09:46 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	mindfull	03/10/10 09:51 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 09:59 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:02 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:07 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 10:10 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:14 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:16 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:24 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:29 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/10/10 10:13 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/10/10 10:21 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 10:09 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/10/10 09:05 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 11:35 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/11/10 11:46 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 12:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/11/10 02:00 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 02:18 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	C-Bart	03/11/10 02:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/11/10 02:54 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/12/10 12:58 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/12/10 05:42 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/13/10 02:10 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Upside	03/13/10 03:04 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/13/10 03:57 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Upside	03/13/10 04:19 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 10:45 AM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/15/10 02:57 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 03:16 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 03:49 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/15/10 04:23 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	kat727	03/15/10 05:31 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/15/10 11:19 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/16/10 02:15 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Drew	03/16/10 02:30 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/16/10 02:45 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/16/10 04:38 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/18/10 02:41 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	job	03/21/10 01:40 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 01:55 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	job	03/21/10 02:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 02:06 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	TrentC	03/21/10 04:55 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 04:58 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 05:02 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 05:34 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 05:48 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/21/10 05:56 PM
Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	are you kidding	03/21/10 06:02 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Mach1	03/22/10 08:49 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	ddstartingover	03/26/10 01:45 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Mach1	03/26/10 03:47 PM
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Re: How do you forget....how do you turn off the love?	Cadet	04/01/10 07:39 PM
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