NY (where I live) classes me as an unhealthy person as I have a chronic and incurable disease. It would not matter if I was 15, 25, 35 or 85. Unless a cure for Lupus is discovered this state deems me as unhealthy for the remainder of my life. Health status is part of the criteria for spousal support here. Do you know if it is part of the criteria/consideration in Canada? If so your H's health status could be an issue.
It could. Realistically, unless a drug comes through in the next couple of years (which IS possible, there are a lot of trials), his health will increasingly become affected. His kidney function is down to 40% and it won't improve, only get worse.
You're right that it's as important to figure out what his L is telling him as it to find out what my "rights" are...which I think given our sitch probably aren't totally cut and dried.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
