Yes and its under archives all the way at the bottom... Its only three pages long in the archives and all of it was good! Glad you thought the same...it WAS really good!
They have helped me tremendously, as well as, all the other day to day advice or input I get.
You just grow and grow here... everyday little by little...
I wouldn't go back to my old life 5 months ago ( with my husband here and no D filed ) if you paid me to... and the ONLY reason for that is because we were both unhealthy and needed this, Me as the LBS getting better and healthier for ME and learning to be compassionate while he the MLCer is on his journey and hoping and praying he comes through a healthier and happier man.
Now, the self-journey begins so that you can work toward your own wholeness. You'll find that focusing on yourself will enable you to let go of where your husband is on his own path; as you can do nothing for him, only for YOU.
You'll also find in time, that you will be fine, regardless of what happens in the future.
One day at a time, one step at a time.
Have a great evening.
Much love, HB
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
As most of you know, mine did in Dec and is filing D now but has always denied OW. He said I needed there to be something to blame his decision on. That it wasn't OW. It's me. It's him not being happy anymore, feeling like he was losing himself and didn't want to fake it loving me anymore.
Guess I am just wondering if there has ever been a time where this has happened in MLC/WAS where there wasn't OW/OM?
You'll find that focusing on yourself will enable you to let go of where your husband is on his own path; as you can do nothing for him, only for YOU.