SSMguy, of course you disagree about MLCs; you generally do disagree with most concepts discussed here (especially those of Michelle WD who founded this site and has written very insightfully on the subject).
Obviously I'm not calling your friend a child molester. A child molester is merely the most obvious example of a person whose selfishness outweighs his/her ability to display altruistic love. A person "torn between two lovers" is similar in that (although s/he probably cares somewhat for both), s/he's primarily interested in his/her own feelings: "Look at *me*! What a painful situation *I'm* in! *I'm* going to have to hurt one of these guys! *I'm* going to have to give one of them up when *I* make a choice! Poor *me*!
