Just had my daily therapy w/G... A few items to disperse:
#1 - As per G and Puppy, I'm going to gather intel on H. (I don't have ANYTHING, in over a YEAR of poking around to justify it, but I also was never strong enough to handle the outcome, if bad.) So, more on that...
#2 - I'm getting legal counsel. No one freak out. I'm not hiring anyone, or doing anything. I just want to know a worst case scenario (NOTE: H HAS NEVER mentioned D, but, hey, keep it up and I might.)
#3 - And, most importantly, I've developed some basic tools, responses and approaches to H, and have begun immediate use/deployment. My major issue w/H is his snarkiness. I have already begun to call him out on it. We are now moving on to calling him out on it EVERY time. When I have done this, he, typically has an "apologetic/didn't know" response. And, then he's fine. AND, when he's a good boy, he gets hugs and kisses, and words of praise, etc... Something like that dog training, Coach! My other major issue w/H is his lack of desire for intimacy. Watch out, I'm starting to feel like myself again, the one he fell in love w/, and couldn't keep his hands off. WARNING!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
