flowmom | need to commit to myself

[ImprovedRomeo]

FM, my feeling is that the meeting should be strictly about him doing the talking and you listening. Just see what he wants, what his expectations are. Prepare yourself for the worst possible things he can ask you and how you'd react. If he pressures you into agreeing/disagreeing you can say "I hear what you're saying but I'll need some time to think about it."

I totally agree with r22, you should go out to a public place to discuss this. Not just to subside your fears but also a nicer setting will probably lead to a more friendlier conversation between you two.

And yes, you should be looking for an atty. I know it's one of the hardest things you'll ever do. I've done it once and I have to do it again and it's still very hard but you're so much smarter and stronger than me, just do it!