She is most likely at a point where she is questioning herself right now and needs to do some soul searching of her own-----but don't acknowledge that as a possibility (as in---don't tell her you think you know what she's thinking....or going through..). You might want to check out some of the MLC resources (I may be wrong, but it may be a possibility).
I think you might be right about the MLC. Our life together was not exactly adding up to what she thought it would be and she is going to turn 40 in a few months. I think she feels like she needs to get more out of life. More than being married or being held down with reasonability. She just does not realize that she is older and responsibility does not go away!!!
Originally Posted By: ThisCan'tBTheEnd
If you continue to make the changes in you, she will notice. If she is going through something of a life change herself it may be awhile before she is ready to recommit (maybe a LONG time). PLEASE be patient. You will read here many times-----be the "lighthouse" be that person she wants to go to when she's ready, if she's ready.
Being the lighthouse is an interesting thought. I am going to really think about that one.
Originally Posted By: ThisCan'tBTheEnd
If you are serious about standing for your marriage, this is all you can do. You do not have control over anyone else but yourself---this is something you have to beat into your brain.
Be the lighthouse!
Unfortunately I know this. I feel now what her frustration was when I was so depressed. She could see the way out of what was going on and could not understand why I did not. Now the roles are reversed and I see what she will or cannot and all I can do is wait. It took her to leave me for me to realize what a mess my life, and therefore hers, had become. I guess I was hoping that I would come up with the one thing that would shock her like she did to me.
