By the way, my post got kind of pushed way back & I didn't see the few responses I got & just wanted to thank those of you who posted to me.

Also, just wanted to let all of you going through the Big D Bomb, that it DOES work out sometimes.

My H was adament he wanted a D, but we worked through it.

The piecing part takes YEARS. Especially if there was an affair or past cheating.

I have forgiven my H for the cheating, but trusting again is whole other ball of wax.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10