The latest with me

[ImprovedRomeo]

FM, thanks, I went with #1 but doesn't it sound kinda snubbed? oh well...I keep backsliding I really need to just not care about her that much. After two times I'm not sure if I really want her back and live in fear that she'll leave again any min I say something to her or it rubs her the wrong way.

ST, I was the one who stopped riding because I didn't want to break my ankle or lose a limb and be in a wheel chair forever. Funny now because can you imagine STBXW even getting me a glass of water? So as much fun as it is I still worry. Yeah a W laying there not participating is the worst!!! it feels horrible, cheap and just below everything you stand for (no pun there! LOL). In my case, she would participate but minimally, except for a couple of times when she didn't and I just stopped. No amount of talking or trying to understand what was bothering here would make her talk about it. I slowly started feeling drawing away from her little by little because I didn't know what I was doing wrong and she wouldn't tell me. The conversations started going dry and soon it was only small talk, non-chalant stuff not what was inside us.

Thanks, I'm big on doing family things and spending time together. I tried to plan almost every weekend doing some fun stuff, we took vacations (hawaii, tahiti etc), bought a travel trailer and a truck to pull it. I was all about building memories and strengthening the family bond. I hope DD will remember some of it forever, I know I will.

She may have good intentions when she told DD to not cry but come on, if she gave a duck's butt about me she wouldn't do what she did. I don't think she cares about me one bit and I'm not saying it because I'm angry, I really don't think she does. In fact, I think she's a self centered person who only thinks of herself. She does care about DD in that she'll take care of her as a routine but I don't think she emotionally connects with DD even or else she'd see how hard it is for her and what this will do to her future. I mean how bad is it for her in our house that she has to pick up and leave? I'm hardly even home during the week, I'm gone 10-12 hrs at work, I come home, eat dinner and go to sleep. She's no better off living at someone else's house without a job, without the same amenities of our house etc. If she truly cared about us she'd have said 'you know what, for DD's sake let's try to make this work, let's go to MC etc'.

Yet, everytime she feels like she's not happy she takes off running and guess what that teaches DD? run away from your problems instead of solving them.