Is this piecing?

[Lost Rabbit]

Just caught up with this via a big clue from GW hope you got things sorted out with RR's help..

Huge hugs, you have to allow yourself some mistakes as other wise being perfect would be a task to hard to perfect..

Will sneak on again later to see how youre doing..

[flowmom]

(((H4L)))

[Butterfly1]

WWelll, we had a big talk alst night and all my fears are confirmed.
We finally got into the deeper stuff, but puncuated by a constant 'you need to get it through your head I don't want to be with you." Our deal was he would work throught stuff with me if we went to the L for legal sep and now he suddenly doesn't want to work through it. He says he "changed him mind" and has been happier this past year than during our "nightmare" marriage.

I feel lied to and tricked and everyone warned me this would happen.

I guess we're not piecing, and I was fooling myself. Need expert advice very devastated.

[flowmom]

Oh H4L what a shock! How does he explain his "piecing"-ish actions? Did something trigger this (other than the book thing)?

hugs to you...

[Butterfly1]

well it's obvious he did it because I insisted in order to sign the legal separation
he got what he wanted and now he's leaving me in the cold

[flowmom]

Is he really the kind of person who could fake it to that extent?

[Butterfly1]

I guess so that why I"m so devastated. I didn't think so. I believed him. I don't know how to deal with this new ifo that we are not piecing like I was led to believe, and that I let myself believe. I think it may be time to see a lawyer. Again.

[flowmom]

H4L, I would see a L...but don't tell H yet.

Any chance that H would be willing to discuss this in MC? You deserve to know what the heck is going on, and I don't see that happening in a safe way without some support there.

Your H seems very volatile. Is there any chance this could just be an emotional setback on his part? One day he wants you to be his passover-providing W, the next day he's all done? It sounds like a time to stand waaaay back from this and take no action IMO. Let the dust settle.

And give yourself the space to lick your wounds. Ugh.

[flowmom]

I don't remember if you felt that your H was in MLC? He totally sounds like he's doing that thing where he pokes his head out of the tunnel then runs back in, spewing as he goes.

[Butterfly1]

He wasn't angry that is the scary thing. He just said it to me.

I guess I do need to stand way back. I will.

I don't know if I've just been fooling myself all this time or I really was tricked.

I don't know if I should just say ok and file with a L or see this as more WAS script and keep going.