Ok. So my plan so far: Moving back home when W is away. Try find out OM's whereabouts during that time Taking my place back in the marital bed (should I do this? I have a feeling the answer is yes :-D) When W gets back: Give the W my speech. So far I have just got the "I have moved back" announcement in. Is there anything else I should be discussing with her at this point? What should I say to my S7 about whats happening?