Doc, I'll click glasses regarding your comment about you and I being a catch for someone if things don't work out (I think the odds of mine working out are improving). This seems to be our turning the corner year. Thanks Jak, for the affirmation.
My W is in a balancing the family budget, clean the house, and declutter the basement mode. She's considering postponing our summer trip. She took 11K of her personal savings and paid down a credit card, in preparation for possible unemployment. It's good to have some partnership in this area. She's hired an unemployed friend to help clean out the basement and assist her with housecleaning.
We spoke about the ballroom dance experience. It doesn't feel like a good fit for her at this time (the quarterly balls), which is fine. She will need to move into a ballroom dance experience, if she chooses. I think it would be good for her to compliment her mainly salsa dancing with smooth dances, but it's her choice. She will need to allow herself to be a beginner. It feels like one has to be a professional with her, as she gets frustrated with us mortals who struggle in trying to develop the skills.
I will give her the space to follow her own dance journey, while respecting my own. We will evolve in our own ways, and hopefully together also. The Hustle formation partnership is going very well. She is impressed with my willingness to try something different and stretch myself. She thinks I'm one of the top dancers in the group. I'll need to keep practicing.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
