I cancelled are text messaging feature on our cell phones and blocked his numbers and everything related to the OM. It felt so good to have some control and piece just knowing he was not constantly invading our home.
I felt in control of my life. It was a feeling I have not felt for sometime.
I wished I had done this sooner.
I expected her to say something, but there has been complete silence about it from her.
What does that mean? I thought she would confront me or be mad about it. However, she has been in a very bad mood ever since though. I guess she is not happy which I really don't care about.
Any comments about her silence? Just wondering what it means!
Stop mind reading. If she is silent, let her be silent. I'm glad you cancelled the text messaging and blocked the guy's number on the cell phones, good move. You finally stood up for yourself, I'm sure it was a little scary at first but standing up for yourself when you haven't done so in such a long time is a new experience for you, so I'm sure it was a little unsettling but that's ok, that's a growth experience - get in the habit of being more assertive and standing up for yourself regularly.
Next move will be this, "hey wife you either agree to invest 110% wholehearted effort into this marriage or you can invest 110% wholehearted effort into a divorce because i won't live in an open marriage anymore, this has gone on long enough and I'm not doing this anymore. Since I've been watching the kids full time while you work, I'll be pursuing joint custody (or full custody, up to you) and child support as well as spousal support - men and women are equal nowadays, if you don't mind cheating on your husband, I don't mind my wife paying alimony and child support. Thank you!!!"
The question is.... do you have the guts to do this yet?
