When I wrote the weight loss thread, that was the angriest that I have been in our marriage. I had stood by her through unbelievable body changes. I had given up all exercise and diet to try and make her happy and now she's upset because *I'm* fat? F her. It was the mother of all deal breakers. She really understands that now. I still feel that way. She has been instrumental in my weight gain. I ate what she cooked, but she complained about my healthy diet and exercise constantly.
I really talked to her about the job. I listened.
1) She doesn't like all the time that I have to spend on my career. She feels that I am choosing my career over her. Right now there just isn't a choice. My career involves a lot of start up investment that won't be there next year. (I can't give too many details here, it would be too revealing.)
2) She doesn't like that I'm now one of the workers not one of the bosses. I don't get to move the meeting. The admin moves the meeting.
I know that she's feeling neglected, she's said that. She feels that I've neglected the kids. I have.
Now comes some very low level mind reading.
I think she's feeling jealous since her last job ended in disaster (fired) and she has been unemployed for eight months. She won't explore this.
I think at least some of this goes to control issues. She can't talk me into moving the meeting if I'm not in control of the meeting. She can't tell me not to do the work when the work has to be done.
