know what to do anymore. My wife of 6 years has over the last 2 years left me on and off for a months at a time, but this latest separation has lasted 9 months thus far and things aren't looking good. She says she isn't comfortable in "your house." She has never attempted to file for divorce but has threatened multiple times. She had 2 kids with her first husband and has 2 with me. I love them all equally and not seeing them everyday is killing me. I've helped raise them since they were 1.5 and 3 years old.
She works a lot on the road and is gone for days and up to a week at a time. She's been living in an apt for the last 9 months so it is more permanent than previous separations where she just lived with a friend. Anyway, I love her with all my heart and despise this separation.
We have breakfast or coffee sometimes and everything is fine till I ask her to come home and start over with our family....at that point she closes up and becomes a total jerk. She will tell me things when she gets stressed just to hurt me. The only thing I do wrong is tell her how much I love her. I take care of the kids as often as needed, I'm nice to her all the time despite her coldness, I compliment her on her work and appearance, I support her job, and from what people tell me I do way more and have endured way more than a person should have to over these last 2 years.
All that being said, I love her and have loved her since the first day I met her 17 years ago. She has and will always be my one true love, and I don't ever want to give up on her.....but she is distant and the only thing she ever wants is space. When I give her space, it is ok but it doesn't change anything. I'm just so depressed all the time and tired of being hurt all the time. I want my wife and family back together but don't know what to do anymore.
