Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Trixi]

So I told Landlord a few days ago that I would be moving and he wants to get on market- no later than April 1st. HOLY LORD!!! Basically, the night that I talked to him, gave me 9 days to pack up and make the house show ready.(I lose 3 days at the end of the month because of family counseling at DD rehab.) A house that up until the day before that I was not planning on leaving if I could avoid it. The time frame is crazy short-- I know sellers that take a couple months to get their house ready for sale while they de-clutter and deep clean.

Anyway, added to that--my H yesterday explained how he feels and he knows in his heart that it is 100% the right thing for us to get back together morally, but he isn't sure otherwise. AND, that we'll "try for a year" and if it doesn't work out, then at least we tried.

Great. I just gave away the prairie dog that hates him (and tries to attack him); I just rented a storage unit so my landlord can sell the house I love; I'm throwing everything in boxes instead of actually going thru things thoughtfully; I'm supposed to sell the couch set, the entertainment center (that I love) the bedroom set; my washer and dryer-- and his big commitment is for a year and even with that he has it all planned out what he will think if we don't work out...but adds on that we could work out-- he doesn't know. :eyeroll:

I did say that he should man up and do what is right (since he knows what that is) and that his crappy attitude is guaranteeing our failure. That this wishy washy waffly attitude is what he has had this whole time and he needs to make a total change or else the results will be the same as always.

This sucks. And at this juncture- without a divorce so I could get the 401- I can't afford my house. (I was figuring that there would be spousal support because of his HUGE income vs mine-- but now, with no job, that's not realistic.) So I have to move no matter what I guess. And the goal is that when we are living together to get all my consumer debt paid off.

I am pulling back from him and not investing like I should if I want it to work. I analyze every suggestion he makes to see if it is him trying to lead me down the primrose path (ie, I almost assume that he has ulterior motives.) He keeps trying to reassure me that he is committed...but then adds on that we'll see how it is after a year.