Is W playing me?Is she trying to get a reaction? I really think that she will go through with this so I can’t see what kind of reaction she would be going for. I really think that this is one of those half baked ideas like leaving the marriage without thinking about all the consequences.
Ken, she is playing with you because it's fun, she has too much power here and in these situations it's like playing with a toy. Yeah I'm sure she's trying to get a reaction, with all this power, she enjoys torturing you and watching you squirm and still pursue her, it's an ego trip and you just don't see it yet.
When you mention ML to your wife or asking if she's open to it, I'm assuming ML means "making love", instead of asking for that, why don't you ask for some no strings attached SEX with her, not "making love", no false hope, no ideas of reconciliation, just a good old fashioned pounding. I think that's what she wants, SEX not "making love", she doesn't have those "in love" feelings with you so why would she want to "make love" with you? You need to wrap your head around this concept.
You are still using logic and applying it to her actions which are emotionally fueled and you still don't get it.
The dinner thing was and is pursuing.
Listen when the WAW is so blinded by the "fog" and is consumed by an affair, she is emotionally driven, those are her feelings which are guiding her, the feel good feelings and she really enjoys them, who wouldn't. See this, observe this in what she says and shares with you about her family, etc. Those are her feelings talking, not logic. You still bring up marriage talks, stop this, seriously, I'm getting sick reading it each time. As I was saying, when the WAW is so immersed in her affair (remember emotionally fueled, no logic), the only way to zap them is to reach them emotionally. How do you do that? Well it won't be with fancy dinners, flowers and relationship talk. If she is so determined to leave you and the marriage, give her a taste of her own medicine. Date other women and make less time for your "best friend" walk away wife.
