You keep implying.. "This" is what you want. "This" is exactly the same thing that happened before. What can you do to change it? Is "This" really what you need?
What are you talking about FG, not following you...
Originally Posted By: Forrest Gump
Make a choice.. Show him what you need. Right here right now.. you can be everything he needs. I suspect.. he will slowly give you what you need. He needs you.. alot more than he thinks.
Yeah, ok. This is what Ihave been doing and he responds. The minute something threatens my "balance" and controlled positive state, he disappoints me.
Our life together has reached a plateau (sp?). We are co-parenting, accommodating, not much tension, a few dsicussions, some progress, then steps back. We spend weekends with friends, the kids, out eating, some nights out without the kids, we shop, we sleep, we watch movies and play ...Quantum of Solace on Wii (isnt it ironic????).
He hugs me and kisses me, sometimes shares things about his work, others not. He still has this "eggshell walking" attitude and he still doesnt want to accept what it is we are dealing with. He denies the truth. Not to be a smartass, he just cant deal with it.
Last night we were watching football with friends, and the one goalkeeper we even talked about on here years ago, looks very good, me and the woman friend said he looks great and then my son said "mom, so what if he looks good, he has a family, would you want to break his family up?"... WOW for me, WOW for H. It is the first time my S8, spells it out so clearly that in HIS head, a family is sacred, "you just dont break families"... I agreed with him, H got a look on his face worth a milion dollars...
He rarely shares what has has been thinking and that for me has got to change. SEX is now an issue. I think it will ve very hard to break that boundary, it's been too long between us, beeing asexual, being...sibblings. I really dont know how to handle it and I am lacking motivation.
I still feel I'm his second choice. K
PS I asked and he said he aske dthe girl what was that email she sent him. She said she had seen him being upset, was on her PC and just sent that email... He would have never shared that convo with me if I had not asked. This man really nees alot of intesive seminars on women. He is lacking simple relationships knowledge.
