Snooping again I see....you were warned. All it does at this point is hurt yourself. Other wise a very common conversation...with the expected replies.
I have to ask....is there more to the history of your situation than you have shared? Two of your wife's replies made me stop and ask if there is more.
Oh..Don't move out of the bed. Let her make the decision to leave it.
Lost - I did not snoop again. The text messages were from the time I found the phone. I waited before I confronted the first time. When I confronted again she lied. I took this weekend to reflect on what I should do and I came to the conclusion that I could not continue to allow this to go on. I did think about the kids yes I did. I want my kids to know that you do not accept this type of behavior in a M. Period. Was I upset this morning - yes I was. Did I deal with it properly - No i did not but I am done. I am not going to allow her to continue on with an A that just may destroy another family. I should not have cursed and screamed. I should not have but I am human and the women that I love is in love with another man. I could not sit back any longer.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Eric - is the OM married? One thing you can do is to expose the affair to OM's wife. Affair is a fantasy, when you expose it may bring it to an end.
And if you can, stay in your marital bed. I know, extremely hard under the circumstances. If you leave your bed or the bedroom, she will turn it against you one way or other. Let her leave if she wants to.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
Yes I did lie about a few things in the past. Nothing along the lines of an affair. I lied about things like going out after work for drinks primarily. The reality thought is that this stops about 1.5 YEARS ago. When I changed jobs I stopped going out and was always HOME. Look Lost I was the not the greastest husband this I admit. I do take responsibility for this however, I cannot continue to sit back while she does her A thing. I have morals man. I do. Can I forgive her - yes I can but I could not let this thing continue on.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Yes the OM is married. He is a supervisor at her job. Apparently he job spoke to both of them about the relationship. I could expose it to the OM W but I would rather not. I do not thing two families need to be destroyed in this. I do wonder if I should contact OM directly.
Thoughts on this anyone? Jack, Puppy?
I have already screwed this up a bit with the WAY that I confronted her but quite honestly the soft gentle approach really did not bring out the truth. I do not want to be an ass with her. I do love her but I am willing to let her go. She wants to be with him then leave, go, I'll be okay. I know that GOd is with me.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Yes I did lie about a few things in the past. Nothing along the lines of an affair. I lied about things like going out after work for drinks primarily. The reality thought is that this stops about 1.5 YEARS ago. When I changed jobs I stopped going out and was always HOME. Look Lost I was the not the greastest husband this I admit.
She will use the ammunition she has.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
