New here but Seems a Common Theme

[thegoodfight]

Balance, my recommendation would be to view it from a "me & mine perspective." The pain children go through tears at each of us and it is difficult. I won't kid you, exchanges to this point still are challenging at times. Perhaps remembering that you cannot control her actions, she has to overcome her addiction no one else can do that for her. You continue to put your children first and take care of you. You act respectful and with dignity but don't be a doormat.

One must put themself in a place of peace in order to get through these types of situations. I spent a lot of time talking with friends and family. This board was a good tool to share experiences with some people. What do you enjoy doing or what did you enjoy before, get back to that! Let go of any expectations and reside yourself to you will give your children and yourself the best you have to offer. Regardless of the outcome you will have learned tools, strengthened your bond with you children and learn to embrace change.

What she does will be irrelevant. What you do for your children and you is all that matters. It is and can be challenging, but this is a time in which you can really learn about how much strength and fortitude you have within yourself. This is not easy, and remember you made vows, you stuck to them. Despite your spouses behavior you have choosen the high road. You will never go wrong taking the path less traveled. It isn't the easiest route but I am positive it is the most rewarding!

Stay positive, and do not beat yourself up, you can only do something about today, yesterday is gone. Do not let someone's selfish behavior rob you of another day, appreciate yourself, you will be okay. You can endure, it will work out they way it is suppose to.