I am sorry but I really cannot continue to sleep in the same bed with someone who texting another man about "wipping away her wetness"....and "I love you" and "I am so happy you are in my life" - "you look so handsome today"...I am sorry but I have morals and standards.
Hey Eric,
You're not going to get any 2x4's from me for this. I don't feel you need to apologize for it either. This is your boundary. Period. MLC or not, I wouldn't and didn't share my bed either. My ex knew this, that's why she split so soon.
If this is your boundary, I can't tell you how important it is to stick with it. NO WAIVERING. Her words don't mean a helluva lot at this point, and I agree, as long as there is an OM, there is no working on your marriage.
Your interaction with her could have been better.
Be strong, confident, and be respectful. Do those for you. Try your best not to show her ANY negative emotions, she will feed off of them. You're going to have your moments, I get that. Just DO NOT let her see them. No more F' you's or F offs, or anything else like that. Be better than that.
You're correct, if you believe things can be fixed, then they can. She has to want it though. You can't make her want it, all you can do is focus on you.
Cursing, finger pointing, and getting into it with her aren't going to help. Be above all that, don't play her game.
