Question

[awest1217]

This is what I set up Lucky...although it will probably never get signed.

Expenses:
H will pay $500 in child support each month as calculated by the Indiana Child Support Calculator. This amount will help to pay for…
• Daycare fees
• Medical expenses for Hayden
• Clothing for Hayden
• Food for Hayden
• Housing for Hayden
Payment method:
_____One payment of $500 with the first paycheck of the month
_____One payment of $500 with the second paycheck of the month
_____Two payments of $250, one each paycheck

H will continue to keep S on his medical insurance
Me and H will split 50/50 all dental bills and any medical bills exceeding $100 for things such as surgeries or emergency room visits. Any medical bills below $100 I will use the child support to pay for.
Any extra money given to me will go into S’s personal savings account for his later use.


Regular Visitation Schedule:
Before a permanent living arrangement has been established:
• Every other weekend
o H will pick S up from daycare every other Friday and be dropped off at home or picked up by me by 8 pm
o Saturdays of that weekend, H will pick S up by 9 am and S will be dropped off or picked up by 8 pm
o Sundays of that weekend S will be dropped off to Eric after church is over (between 1 pm and 2 pm) and will be dropped off or picked up by 7 pm.
• H will pick up S from daycare ___________ night each week and be dropped off or picked up by 7:00 pm.

Once a permanent living arrangement has been established:
 We will add overnight visitations slowly to allow S a chance to adjust to the new living arrangement.
 For the first three months
o H will pick S up from school the Friday of his weekends and drop him off or be picked up by 8 pm on Saturday evening.
o S will then be dropped off and picked up on Sundays as described above on those same weekends
 After the first three months of a permanent living arrangement and sleeping over one night during the weekend,
o H will then pick up S from daycare on the Friday of his weekends and drop him off or S will be picked up Sunday at 10:15 am for church and be returned to H after church until 7:00 pm Sunday evening.
 H will still pick-up Hayden from daycare _____________ night each week and be dropped off or picked up by 7:00 pm. Over night visitation will not happen during regular school weeks.

Holidays/Vacations:
All holidays will be celebrated with every other parent with the exception of…
• Easter – after church 2 hours will be spent with H and his family and then I will be able to take S to her family gathering
• Mother’s Day – S will spend the entire day with me
• Father’s Day – S will spend the entire day with H
• Our personal birthdays – S will spend the day with the perspective parent whose birthday it is
• S’s birthday – every other birthday will be spent with the other parent
• Christmas – the 23rd into Christmas eve day S will spend with H and late Christmas eve into Christmas day S will spend with me (this is to keep with when the extended families normally see S)
Vacations
• All one day vacations S will stay where he normally would unless H or I has an extra day off when the other does not then that parent would get to spend time with S for the day
• Spring Break – H will get two consecutive full days to spend with S. S will spend the night with H if a permanent living arrangement has been established and S will be dropped off at 8 pm on the return day. Before a permanent living arrangement, H will pick S up at 9 am and drop him off by 8 pm each dat. The days of visitation will need to be given to me in writing or e-mail one month before spring break to give both parents an opportunity to plan vacations. (One week notice for this spring break, 2010.)
• Christmas Break – just like spring break H will see S two full days during Christmas break each week of Christmas break. Pick up and drop offs will be just like Spring break and same with overnights. Days of visitation will need to be given to me in writing or e-mail one month before Christmas break to give both parents an opportunity to plan vacations.
• Summer Vacation – H will pick two full days each week he will consistently see S. These days must be established a month before summer vacation so both I and H have an opportunity to plan vacations including S.
• Other special events can be discussed between me and H and be decided as a parenting unit.

Miscellaneous:
• Both H and I will cooperate to make S’s living arrangement the most safe, secure, and consistent possible
• All important incidences occurring to S while with either parent will be communicated to the other parent with a phone call; doctor visits, medicines, problems at school, etc.
• If one parent needs to switch a weekend, this will be discussed with the other parent one week before the occurrence unless it is an emergency.
• Any other small changes in the visiting agreement must be told to the other parent within 24 hours of the change, unless there is an emergency.
• If there is a time during the parent’s weekend that S must be watched by someone other than the parent, the babysitter must be a family member unless otherwise approved by both parents. If the time is longer than 4 hours, the parents must communicate that this will be happening, why it is happening, and who will be watching S during that time.
• Neither parent will take S out of the state without giving the other parent an itinerary of the trip a week in advance; where S will be, who will be with him, how long the trip will last, etc.
• During overnight visitations, no one other than S and the perspective parent will be sleeping in the same building unless the person is a family member.
• I will supplyH with all medicines, vitamins, clothes, toys, videos, and any other important articles that S will need during his visitation. If H needs something that S does not have, he can call me and pick it up. All food will be taken care of by the parent who S is with.

By signing this document, I agree to all the pieces of information that are in it and will abide by the arrangement unless changes are discussed and agreed by both parents.


Because of the fact that H has not seen S for more than a few hours maybe once a week, and never alone although encouraged to, I think this is very fair. He is seeing S quite a bit, however he won't sign it because he doesn't want to hurt himself if we go to court. I have the papers from my L, this is what he would get and it is a little generous because technically he should only see S Saturday and Sunday and not overnight until 9 months after a consistent visitation is established. I am saying once he has someplace permanent to live overnights can start which could be next week...he still thinks it is unfair, but it is unfair to see S only when it is convenient and constantly cancel. Ok so now I am going to try to stay off for a the rest of the week unless something drastic happens. I am checking my e-mail once a day so if you have advice I will still read it.