I agree I do not think from a Religious or Secular point of view if you want to save your marriage, that you should be "dating". I know it is tempting, but two wrongs do not make a right. The passage reads something to the effect of do not repay evil with evil. Anyway pleased to hear you are doing well. I think going out with friends and enjoying what you have, versus what is not there is a good thing.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!