Getting started again.

[gutwrenching]

LR -
Flowmom has it right. Put it on paper, ask him to come up with solutions. Make him feel like the man of house and at the same time make him fix the issue instead of you fixing it. You are not hiding from the issues, don't let him hide. There are solutions out there, and if he comes up with the solutions, then he will be more likely to follow thru. You have been the strong one long enough, time for H to pull some of the weight...more of a team effort.