Hi CHH,
You should check the divorce law in your state. Where I'm from if you are separated for one year, your spouse can get a divorce without your consent. Before that both parties have to agree to a divorce. You could tell her that you want to do a legal separation first, that you are not ready for a divorce yet. That would buy you time, lots of things could change in a year. Again educate yourself on your state's divorce law first and keep DB'g.

Wish you the best smile

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO