My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

I talked about this today with my good friend and I really cannot have any sort of serious relationship talks with him right now. I will get no where and he will only remember what he wants and change the facts. Especially with the OW in the picture. Relationship talks will get me no where.

I mistakenly asked him to come over tonight and he gave some lame excuse. He is totally lying and his excuse is ridiculous he might as well have just told me he was washing his hair....it would have been more believable.

I have noticed that his irritability and anger do go away when the OW is out of the picture. Maybe it doesn't disappear completely, but I can certainly see him trying to control his mood and feelings. He can do it and I was very impressed the last time he was here for almost 4 weeks. He did really try and I thought maybe things were going for the better. I was wrong, the OW came back.

When I have spent time with him the last couple of weeks there really is no conversation, he is just irritable and I really have absolutely no clue what to say. We really are just at the blame game stage right now. Or more he is in the blame game stage of everything is my fault.

I will try to learn from your impulsive behavior lola I am just so tired of this limbo land stuff and I do feel like something impulsive needs to be done in order to move things along. I do know this isn't going to do anything and I do need to be patient. Patience is the one thing I do not have and maybe this is my lesson to learn now at this time. I am trying so hard.

The H just texted me a bit ago and wanted to know if I was home and how my day was. WTF, seriously. I told him I did a bunch of stuff. He said "ok, you don't have to tell me what". I don't even know how to respond to this. I think he is just baiting me or maybe the OW isn't paying attention to him now. I don't know and really I don't know if I should care.