Well, I'm really not fully sure what's best. This site is the only support system I have which suggests waiting! Everyone else pushes for divorce. So you guys (esp you!) do make me pause a bit.
I thought about asking for legally sanctioned financial support. I just can't trust him to give me what I need.
Since he responded so differently from how I thought he would, maybe I will tell him that I'm open to either option. It's really hard to know what to do because all the signs I've had from him so far are just "get away from me!" He even said himself it was separate from his condition. But now, after 3 weeks of NC, he seems to be doubting. . .
I guess a big fear I have is the baby coming and me not having his child support. I fear that because I need the money and it would be stupid for me to let that happen. (Not that you're suggesting that, of course.) But I just worry that if I don't have the divorce papers ready, I set myself up for more instability. But I don't know. If I could have the financial support legally without a specific divorce, I could do that.
I will look into that option. I appreciate your pushing me! I'll let you know how things go.
me, 30 WH, 29 D born June 2010 M: July 2001 Bomb/S: 1/14/10 Done with it all.
