And I think you're at a point where you should be able to calmly, pleasantly discuss a few boundaries you might need in a non-confrontational manner. This is going to have to be done, it seems, sooner or later if you two aren't going to MC.
It's tough to have to take all that on but will ultimately be worth it. But don't let him stick you in mother or fix-it zone!
I totally agree. And unfortunately finances can be a real trap for getting into the mother/fixit zone. I think a good approach is a sitdown, verbally say all the facts about the finances, tell him what solutions you are implementing, and ask for his input on solutions. That puts him in an empowered, grownup role. Even if he suggests your solution, it's face-saving because he brings it forward.
I wish H and I had been able to have conversations like that.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
