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[awest1217]

It was actually my step-dad and mom that were fighting so I pretty much lost that extra help, but oh well.

With H, I have given him all control when it comes to us, which is why I don't understand why he keeps saying I am not being a partner and won't hear him out. I always ask him what he suggests. Just like with S. I put forth an idea and said he could let me know what he would like to change or a plan he would like instead and he just says...I don't know. He says he doesn't want us to be over so I ask him what he thinks we should do, and he says I don't know. I ask him what he wants to do, and he says...that's right you guessed it...I don't know. Sorry for the sarcasm, but I really have tried everything. I have let him have full control and now he is upset because I set a boundary saying I won't be in a relationship with him as long as OW is in the picture and he says I haven't changed at all. I say that I want him to sign papers and talk in person to discuss visitation and he says I am too controlling. How is that controlling? I understand that I am asking for one specific thing to happen, but I am not telling him what to do, I am controlling my life and S's life because he is in my care and has been in my care for a year.

I haven't heard anything really from H since Friday. I did text him yesterday about our fertilizer spreader that I let him use for the place he was staying and never returned. He said he would drop it off some time this week. I said thank you and I just need it before our spring break...two more weeks of work! He said no problem and i love u, but nothing about S or visitation. I am worried he is going to spin this as I am keeping S from him, but he has never asked, and I have to protect myself.

Taxes are getting done this week and hopefully I can get the refund by next week then file spring break. All kind of scary, but it is for the best.

I won't be on much if at all this week because it is our solemn assembly at church. This is a week of getting away from extra distractions to focus solely on your relationship with God. It is a refreshing week to really center yourself with God. It is always a good time for me because I never realize how much the computer, TV, etc. get in the way so I might get on once or twice this week, but if I don't post much...no worries...I will be on again next Saturday.