I know how you feel about wanting to understand. I'm exactly the same way and will try to answer what I can.
I believe that we are what they were looking for all along. They just have to figure that out.
My wife is in full teenager mode. It's not neccesarily about playing the field for her. She's looking for the "one". She's found the "one" five times now(not all relationships were physical). I've heard just about everything(soulmate, "in love", made me feel like no other, "this relationship was 21 years in the making"). Now it seems as though she's found the "one" #6. Met him on a dating site, they haven't gone on a date yet but she's already planning on going to his Church for Easter. It's like he showed interest in her so he must be the "one".
I will read more of your sitch and see if I can answer any of your other questions.
