Oh how I hate handover day! S12 was feeling down all day, more tears of anger & frustration, all he wants is to be part of a family again but is scared of what the future will bring. Trying hard to reassure him but can only tell him I will do my best for him & his B and there are no guarantees that we will ever be a family again. At S12 request, called W to advise that he wanted her to pick them up, rather than be dropped off at W. house or meet at a neutral venue. (He has said again that he only has one home and W. has a different house) W got annoyed & spoke to S, tried to influence him but S stood firm & reiterated what HE wanted. W then started to argue when I said that in future I wanted boys to stay over on Sunday of my weekend to avoid a "grey day" leading up to handover (I had previously allowed her to take them on alternate Sun to facilitate Monday school run). W then stated that she wanted Wed in place of The Sun - I refuesed & she accused me of trying to "steal" extra nights until I pointed out that it was only reverting back to the agreed 50:50 & I was putting boys feeling 1st. W hung up, then called back 15 minutes later, apolgised & said that she had thought about it & did I want to keep them overnight tonight. I refused on the basis that we had already agreed & told boys what the arrangements were for tonight. She came around on time, was civil & we both told them that in future alternate Sundays would be overnight stays. It's difficult to work out what is in her head, her initial reacion today was to be totally selfish about boys then did a 180 & was very caring about boys needs. Difficult to work out & also she did not look like a woman that had been told by the OM that things were over but what the hell! At least I now have another night with the boys every 2nd weekend!! Also it will meen that I see W face to face even less - how will I be able to tell if LRT is working or not?
